I know you have thought about a resolution, we all have, whether you do it or not is a different thing. As you drag your still drunken ass out of bed on New Years Day you contemplate whether this year is going to be something different and whether it is a year for change, is it going to be the year you get your act together? The year that you finally organise your life? Promotion? Relationship? Travel? Money?
Everyone has these aspirations but then somehow they just slip into the stupidly hectic days and weeks, and suddenly we are right back were we started a year older and a heavier hangover.
A Resolution is good right? They help give us goals, hope, direction and sense of knowing what we want. But what about when you don’t achieve them, don’t follow the plan? When you go off course? Which life is supposed to do by the way. If you stick to the plan you are lucky the plan you predicted moved in the same way, but life has a funny way of twisting the path so it is completely unpredictable.
The best resolution you can keep is this one…
Don’t be scared. I’m serious. This is the one. It sounds daft, you might be reading this squished up on the Northern Line Tube at 8am with Mr Smelly Armpit and Dude with the ridiculously loud cough lodged up against you thinking you aren’t afraid of anything. And maybe you are right. But most people don’t realise what they are truly scared of.
Spiders, bugs, running out of prosecco, these all are very scary things. But there are more, things that you have conditioned yourself to find ways and means to adapt to without even knowing it. Letting people down, looking like you don’t understand, being alone, being judged for an opinion you hold, not being left behind. These are all natural human worries. We are a pack animal after all. And I say to you, don’t be scared.
Step out into the light, stand up for something you believe in. Love something proudly, and let it be known. Do something solo, and soak up the glory of the achievement. You can do it.
Its funny as sometimes we aren’t even to blame as from a young age we are brought up to be happy and please others. When have you ever heard a parent say to their child, I just want you to be miserable and unhappy, make sure you bully your brother. (Well saying that I am very sad to assume there very well might be people out there that did have this, but hope the majority did not) Your friends and family love you, they do, they wouldn’t be friends with you if they didn’t, but what the don’t realise is what they are doing to you! Peer pressure sounds too heavy but influence and conditioning over years of interaction doesn’t. Doing something just because you know your parents are going to be pleased with it is not necessarily the best thing for you, pushing your finances to the point of debt because your friends want to party harder is not the best thing for you, stressing yourself out at work so that you are making sure people know you are working hard is not the best thing for you. But, they are scary things to push back on and change. Can you do it? Yes you can. Searching for that strength ain’t easy. But you can. Its in there.
Let me know how it goes x
Btw… I’m totally having to dig deep this year too. The Agoraphobia crap is killing me.
Here’s a Spotify Playlist to help you: 2018 – Feel Fabulous Playlist on Spotify